Skip to main content

Introduction

i should start by explaining that this blog is completely selfish. i'm in serious need of a creative outlet.

recently i moved from tulsa, oklahoma to los angeles, california. this was no small feat. it has been an unbelievable experience. mostly stressful with a few dashes of fun here and there.

why did i move here, you ask? i'm crazy. that's the bottom line right there is i am psychotic. why would i quit a good job living in a city with low cost of living and close to friends and family to move to one of the busiest and most expensive cities on earth if i wasn't clinically insane? the excuse i've been using is that i dream of working in entertainment PR, which is true. but as days go by i realize that in itself is crazy and therefore, i must be crazy too.

another big change - also pretty recent - is my engagement. growing up i never thought i would get married. it just wasn't something on my list of big dreams. move to a big city, yes. get the dream job, yes. marry a handsome man and live happily ever after? nope, nothing of the sort. yet here i am trying to learn to live with someone for the first time while also wrapping my head around planning a wedding, which i've never considered. i don't even know where to start. so far there has been a lot of bitching and not enough compromising. but i'm working on it because i love my baby, he's The Man. and he is living in a city he really seems to hate because of my silly dreams.
oh the fun doesn't stop there, people. my next new development: debt. i always wondered how people could slip into ten thousand dollars worth of debt without realizing it. welp, now i get it. tulsa income mindset-los angeles living=negative bank accounts. i remember complaining about being "broke" back in oklahoma. now i laugh (and immediately cry) when i think of those times. right now i am really seriously bah-roke. each month is worse than the last. however, each time i wonder how it's going to work out it just does. which fuels the whole crazy thing i mentioned earlier and allows me to stay in this ridiculous city.

next on the list is the fact that in two weeks we will be homeless. the original plan was to live in our current apartment splitting rent three ways with a roommate. through a sequence of events that plan was ripped to shreds and now we are scrambling trying to find an apartment with the following:
-low price (we need to work on the debt mentioned earlier)
-allows large pets (The Man has a yellow lab he'd like to bring from OK)
-walking distance to The Man's job (we share a car, so he walks to work)
all basic criteria that is impossible to find in one apartment. i've been searching, digging, scrounging and praying for a place and now that we are down to the wire i am severely freaking out.

you can imagine the effects that the last few months have had on me. and so yet another thing is physical and mental health. i've become very conscious of what i put in my body. i like all natural foods and i like to know where my food comes from. buying all natural foods isn't helping in the debt department. cooking healthy isn't helping in the living together department. i'm trying to find the middle ground. lately i've noticed i'm starting to gain weight. i'm told this is a product of married life or shacking up. that simply won't do, but right now a gym membership is out of the question. i also discovered i have high blood pressure. this is probably due to the stress i'm under. another thing stress has done to me is cause me to develop trichotillomania, which is gross and frustrating and i will discuss later. therefore i'm creating this blog as a creative outlet in order to try and relieve some stress and deal with these new issues.

so here we are. together we are going to figure all of this out. you and me.
-how to effectively find a place to live and love in west LA
-ways to cut cost and eliminate credit card debt
-ideas for eating right, staying in shape and relieving stress that won't upset The Man or The Wallet
-opportunities to compromise and learn to live with someone you love to hate to love

i figure you, the reader, might be dealing with at least one of the problems above. why i happen to be dealing with all of the simultaneously i'll never know, but maybe i can help someone else as i figure out how to help myself. and so this isn't the most depressing blog ever, i'll occassionally toss in some fun stuff as it happens.

*

Comments

  1. Glad you're back into blogging & looking forward to reading more. :)

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

why wide awake?

i'm accepting the fact that i can't sleep. it's 2 a.m. and i'm going to be REALLY sorry in about four hours. i have a lot on my mind. usually when that happens i sleep a lot, which is what i've been doing the last week. perhaps i've used up all of my sleep hours. my little- doggie -sonic, on the other hand, has done nothing but sleep since i picked him up from doggie daycare today. YES!! sonic went to doggie daycare for the first time today. well, yesterday. since The Man left he has been really clingy and over protective. he growls and barks at every little thing, and he's always full of energy now that he is alone all day. i figured the best affordable solution is a day at doggie daycare each week. last weekend he passed his temperament test at The Pampered Pet , so we set his all day appointment. when i dropped him off wednesday morning it broke my heart. he didn't understand why i couldn't go with him to the play room. the lady had to pic

Last Week in Pix + 2x2 - Long Weekend Bliss

Last week was STRESSFUL.  Work was the normal amount of unnecessary crap. Bad weather near my hometown was no fun at all.  Let's just say this long weekend could not have come at a better time.  FRIDAY; Raise A Glass For Oklahoma!  happened at SOUTH in Santa Monica. We are still waiting for the final report from the bar, but we are pretty sure we reached our goal to raise $1000 for Feed The Children in Oklahoma City. Check out the progress here: https://app.mobilecause.com/public/social/7524  It was great that people were down to help out. We had amazing raffle prizes, the bar is donating 15% of the night's sales, and a lot of Oklahomies showed up, which was just wonderful. And because the more we drank the more money the bar would donate...we drank a fair amount. SATURDAY & SUNDAY: Yoga did not happen. I tried really hard, but all of my donation drinking said no.  I finally got rolling in the afternoon, packed up my stuff and Sonic

Justice for Georgina, aka Go See Get Out Immediately

WARNING: ALL OF THE SPOILERS. LIKE, SO MANY SPOILERS. GO SEE THE MOVIE. THAT'S AN ORDER.  In Get Out , the brilliant new Jordan Peele film, black people are used by white people's brains.  That's the shortest explanation, as there are so many levels to the movie. I'm typically not one to see scary movies (I can't even get through Michael Jackson's "Thriller" video), but when I read about this movie's perfect score on Rotten Tomatoes and the raving reviews from critics, I had to go and support this film from a black director with black stars. I'm not a fan of scary movies. They always give me nightmares. Before I saw the film, a coworker assured me that I wouldn't have nightmares after watching  Get Out . He was right and wrong. I didn't have nightmares about monsters lurking in dark corners, but I stayed awake unpacking all of the themes and metaphors of the film. In doing so, a big part of why I wasn't afraid occurred to